Roasted Stone

Going Back

Roasted Stone — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:36:33 +0000

Do you ever go back to that day your loved one passed? Or go back to the days just before? Everyone’s experience is your different, but for me, my Mom slowly died over 3 days.

Recently, I was listening to Pandora on the internet and the song “How to Save a Life” by The Fray came on. That song was on the radio a lot the summer of 2006, which was the summer my Mom passed away. She used to watch Grey’s Anatomy, I never watched it. After she passed away I started to watch the show. Why? Well, my Mom liked it and I felt like I was watching it for her since she wasn’t here anymore. So back to the song, when ever I would hear that song I thought of my Mom in the hospital, slowly dying. Her body was shutting down over the short time she was in the hospital and the line,
I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
it sticks with me. I was with her and how did I not know how to save her life. I’m not a doctor and they weren’t saving her, so how was I supposed to? Well, I’m her daughter and I would have done anything to save her life, anything.

So as I said, the song came on and it took me right back to those awful 3 days that I was losing my Mom. It’s been 5 1/2 yrs and I can remember every detail and every feeling. Death is such a painful thing for the living, I wonder how it is for those dying, I wonder how it was for my Mom. The nurse told me she wasn’t in any pain when she died. I hope that nurse was right. I felt so hopeless. I couldn’t do a thing for my Mom, except be by her side. Was that enough? I will always wonder. The doctors and nurses told my family and I that my Mom hung on longer than they thought she would. I do believe that. I think I got 4 or 5 calls from the hospital over those 3 days telling me and my family to get to the hospital to say our goodbyes because she didn’t have much time. We went there and she hung on a little longer.

Those 3 days that my Mom was slowly dying, I can’t explain in words the pain I felt. Just that it was awful. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t function. Death is a part of life, but why does it have to be so hard on the living. I understand there are ups and downs in life, but damn, death hurts so much. Our loved one will always be a part of your life, only now it will be in new and different ways.

Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life

Death sure can pull at our heart.

Roasted Stone — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 02:55:31 +0000

Your loved one will always be a part of your life, only now it will be in new and different ways ♥

A backpack with love

Roasted Stone — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:27:17 +0000

Went to the store the other day and saw this homeless man. It made me so sad I actually started to cry. So what did I do? I went home packed a backpack with a sweat shirt, two pairs of pants and 5 t-shirts. Had my son take it to him.
I felt so good for giving this man some clean clothes and a backpack.

All Souls Rememberd

Roasted Stone — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:18:18 +0000

Do you know someone who has passed but never received a memorial headstone? With our “All Souls Remembered” Program, we will work with you and your budget to accomplish just that.

The cost of a marker should not prevent anyone from giving their loved one the headstone they deserve. We are selling our standard flat cemetery marker for $395. This is 50% the normal price.

A Christmas Without

Roasted Stone — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 19:05:57 +0000

This Christmas my family was without three loved ones. My Grandma who passed away in December 2000, my Mom who passed away in July of 2006 and my Grandpa who passed away in March of this year. Christmas Eve was truly not the same. We did not get together with my Aunts and Uncles like we have for my whole life. Instead, we stayed home, my husband and my boys. I made cookies during the day and put Split Pea Soup in the crock pot for dinner. The days leading up to Christmas Eve were harder than Christmas Eve itself. It was just another day at home. I can’t figure out why, but I thought I would be so sad and upset, but I wasn’t. Sometimes the anticipation is harder than the actual event. In all honestly, it was nice to not eat a huge meal with too many choices so I eat a little bit of everything. That is what happens every year on Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with my husbands family. This year on Christmas Day we also just stayed home. My husband, my boys and me. The boys played with their new toys all day long.
It wasn’t the worst Christmas ever, just a Christmas without.

What makes you smile?

Roasted Stone — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 20:26:01 +0000

No matter how much time has passed after losing a loved one, the hurt remains. It surfaces at times you expect and at times you least expect. The time you expect it the most are the loved ones anniversary and the holidays. I would love for you to share something about your loved one that brings a smile to your face now that the holidays are here!

Thanksgiving Week

Roasted Stone — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 18:56:41 +0000

Even though next week is Thanksgiving, Roasted Stone Memorials will still be open and seeing clients. Please call Dan at 559-840-5940 to schedule an appointment.

Your loved ones photo engraved into stone

Roasted Stone — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 23:14:07 +0000

Engraving photos into stone is what we do best. At Roasted Stone Memorials this is our thing! We enjoy designing a memorial headstone for our clients with their loved one in mind. Provide a photo to us and we will do the rest. Be assured that your loved ones headstone will be the most beautiful at the cemetery. We use only premium black granite to make the most amazing memorial headstones.

Please call us or email with any questions. info@roastedstone.com or call us 559-840-5940 and ask for Dan.

Veterans Day 2011

Roasted Stone — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 22:51:55 +0000

The Nation pays tribute to those members of the military who have fallen and to their families. Please take time to be thankful for the freedom you have, be thankful for those who have served and are still serving in our military, because without the past and present men and women who have served and are still serving in our military, we would not have the freedoms we have today. There will be many public ceremonies and parades in honor of this day. There will be private prayers said by so many, today is a day to be thankful to others and grateful for what you have been given.

Thank to all the men and woman who have served in every branch of our military. You are appreciated!

Need a monument made by the end of the year?

Roasted Stone — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 22:04:12 +0000

November is here and the holidays are upon us. If you, or someone you know has not purchased a memorial headstone for a loved one, please contact us. We can help design a beautiful monument, have it engraved and delivered to the cemetery before the end of the year. When the holidays are near, many families think about that loved one who they haven’t had a chance to get a memorial headstone for. Don’t put it off any longer. Contact us at 559-840-5940 or by email info@roastedstone.com